Since my blog was busy with a wedding-related flash on Friday, I didn’t post anything about my opinions on the main event. So you’re gonna get them now. Deal with it.
First of all, I don’t think it’s fair to use it as an excuse to have a go at the monarchy. Now, I’m not a monarchist myself, I see the monarchy as a waste of money, to be honest, and the whole argument of it being part of the ‘British identity’ or bringing in tourism is nonsense, in my opinion. Tourists would still come to Britain if we didn’t have a Queen and I don’t think that her existence makes me feel any more or less British since she is just a figurehead. Yet a wedding is not an appropriate time to have a go. A wedding is just two people who love each other and have decided to spend their lives together making that commitment. It is not about whether or not we should have a monarch, regardless of who is getting married, yes, even if it is Prince William who could be King one day. You see, even though he is a prince and therefore a symbol of the monarchy and part of what is wrong with this country, he is also a person. He has feelings, he is capable of falling in love. He is also capable of feeling upset at people using this celebration of his love to have a dig at him and his family. After all, it’s not his fault.
Having said that, I also don’t think it’s right to use it as an excuse to celebrate the British monarchy. For one thing, I don’t understand what there is to celebrate, and for another thing this is a wedding. A wedding is just two people who love each other and have decided to spend their lives together making that commitment. It is not about whether or not we should have a monarch, regardless of who is getting married, yes, even if it is Prince William who could be King one day. Unless you know either of these two people, why celebrate? What, exactly, are you celebrating? Two strangers finding love? As beautiful as that is, is it something you’d celebrate if it were any other two strangers? Do you throw street parties because Sandra and John got married in Newcastle? Of course not, it’s absurd.
Besides, there’s something potentially damaging about celebrating it in this way. It’s seen as a fairytale come true – a Prince marrying a girl and making her his beautiful Princess and living happily ever after with her. People could think that life is really like that for them – and if it’s like that for Prince William and Kate Middleton, why not for them? Because it’s not. Life is not like that – for anybody. There is no happily ever after, no fairytale ending. Now, I’m not saying everything is miserable or anything like that, it’s just life is hard for everyone. No-one is happy all the time. Everybody feels lost and alone sometimes. Even princes and princesses. If you expect a fairytale, you’re going to be disappointed.
I guess I have to admit there is something nice in the country coming together to celebrate a wedding and I do love the idea of a street party. It’s just that William and Kate aren’t special. They’re just like everyone else and they don’t deserve special treatment. If you’re gonna throw a street party for them you should throw a street party for Sandra and John in Newcastle. I’d like to live in a world where that were possible. Of course, it would be a street party every Saturday from April til November, in fact, it might even be one every Saturday all year, and that would get a bit much. Still, we’d get to know our neighbours much better. Perhaps some Jordies would even meet Sandra and John and get invited to their actual wedding. Who knows.